Why You Can’t Succeed If You Hate The Success Of Others
In my rookie years, I was insecure and had a scarcity mindset.
So, if I saw other entrepreneurs succeed I’d secretly kind of hate them.
If they were younger, if they had similar backgrounds, and if they made more than me… it’d pretty much trigger me to subconsciously hate them.
I believe that “hatred” stems from insecurity, comparison, and scarcity.
Thankfully, I don’t feel that same way anymore.
In fact, I believe that if you have similar feelings then you probably won’t be able to experience your own success. At least, that’s how it turned out for me.
So let me explain some ways to overcome this in order to start experiencing success.
I believe that my insecurity with other’s success was really just me realizing that I’m not living up to my potential.
I’ve noticed that others that put down the success of others are really just making excuses so they feel better about their own lack of achievement.
The problem with this is that it strips away your power of choice, action, and responsibility.
And these things are what you NEED, and must NOT ignore, if you want to experience your own success.
Instead, other’s successes should be a source of INSPIRATION that we all have a potential to succeed in our own calling, despite what circumstances we face!
It should instead show you the POSSIBILITIES and LIMITLESS potential that’s available in this world.
It should inspire you to take full responsibility of your life and realize you have choices you can take so you can make your own breakthroughs, and inspire others when doing so.
To sum it up: Don’t be insecure, be INSPIRED!
Another thing I want to discuss is comparison.
You can compare yourself all you want to a younger, more successful entrepreneur, or whatever.
The problem with comparison, though, is that you have NO CLUE what other people go through. Their journey isn’t yours; nor is your journey theirs.
Everyone has their own lessons and hardships they need to conquer to experience their own success.
There are way too many variables in life to make an accurate comparison of your achievement and the achievement of others.
Chances are, if you intimately knew the life of those that succeed then you probably wouldn’t want to trade lives with them. You probably wouldn’t want to walk in their footsteps and go their journey.
Monetary success (and keeping it) is way fucking harder than what the media or fake gurus may make you believe it to be.
Instead, I’ve found much more productive to compare yourself to who you were yesterday, a month ago, or a year ago.
Are YOU improving? Are YOU taking steps towards achievements YOU want to experience?
Remember: It’s much harder to succeed in your journey if you’re too focused on the journey of others. Focus on what YOU can do now to make the changes you want tomorrow. Baby steps.
Lastly, I realized that hating other people’s success could be due to a scarcity mindset.
In other words, there’s a fear of not enough success to go around in the world.
However, the opposite is actually true.
There are literally TRILLIONS being exchanged each day. There’s more than enough money to go around.
Also, creation is infinite. Making money stems in creating value. And creating value involves solving problems.
And the good news (sorta): Problems are also infinite.
Each day some new problem pops up. You solve one and another one pops up. There are so many problems to solve, and so many opportunities to make money by creating businesses to solve them all!
So if you have any negative response to someone else succeeding then it’s possible that on some deep level you are not seeing the ABUNDANCE of wealth, creation, and solutions around you.
If that’s the case, it’ll be really hard for you succeed.
After all, if you can’t see abundance and don’t live with a wealthy mindset then how can you expect to live wealthy?
Doesn’t work that way. That’s like wanting to be crazy fit, but hating people that put in the work to be fit.
Again, think inspiration not insecurity, or scarcity.
Love all the success around you if you aim to be successful yourself. After all, it’s hard to experience success in your life if you hate it in any form or level.